Most people associate ADHD with restless children or distracted teenagers. But Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder isn’t just a childhood challenge – it’s a complex neurodevelopmental condition that often continues, undiagnosed and misunderstood, into adulthood. It impacts attention, emotional regulation, time management, and stress resilience. And it can shape our lives in ways we don’t even realize.
In this article, ADHD coach Monika Bolcskei shares how her own diagnosis changed everything – and why biofeedback became part of her personal and professional journey.
Over twenty years ago, I left a mid-management career that had left me drained and burned out. I needed a reset. A few months later, I began teaching English in a school for neurodivergent children – kids with ADHD, autism, and learning differences. As I worked with them, something clicked. Their traits (sensitivity, creativity, distractibility, emotional intensity) felt familiar to me. Very familiar.
Driven by curiosity, I trained as an ADHD coach, focusing on adults who struggled not because they lacked ability, but because their unique brains had never been properly supported. I never suspected I might be one of them – until I decided to better understand the assessment process. So, I went through it myself. “For research,” I told myself.
And then came the diagnosis.
It explained so much. Like many women with ADHD, I had masked my symptoms for years. I conformed, coped, and compensated – at a high cost. Underneath it all were anxiety, depression, and cycles of addiction.
Getting the diagnosis of ADHD didn’t change who I was. It gave me permission to stop pretending and start healing.
Still, the moment of my ADHD diagnosis came with pressure. The psychiatrist urged me toward medication, even warning, “You might not survive without it.” That moment was terrifying. And it was also defining.
Instead, I chose to stay in charge of my own healing, trusting my instincts and exploring a holistic path. It wasn’t easy, but it was worth it.
Today, I’m medication-free, addiction-free, and living a grounded, healthy life. And that transformation has made me a better coach, a better trainer, and a more present human being.
One of the most powerful tools I came across on my journey was quantum biofeedback.
Quantum biofeedback is a non-invasive technology that assesses stress patterns and rebalances the body’s frequencies using gentle electromagnetic signals. It aligned perfectly with my ADHD coaching work and somatic tools. It didn’t just address symptoms: it supported the whole person: body, brain, and emotion.
Now, as a certified biofeedback practitioner, I use both coaching and quantum biofeedback to help my clients unlock their potential – and thrive in their uniqueness.
Over the years, I’ve gathered powerful insights both as a coach and through lived experience as someone diagnosed with ADHD. Here are six of the most practical and transformative tools I recommend for anyone navigating life with adult ADHD, or supporting someone who is.
ADHD means having a different operating system. Properly understanding it can shift everything. By combining the awareness of coaching with the frequency re-education of quantum biofeedback, anyone can move from (barely) coping with ADHD to thriving with it.
So, if this story resonates with you – as a practitioner, a parent, or a fellow traveler – know this: you are not broken. You are just wired differently. And that difference is your superpower.
About the author
Monika Bolcskei is a pioneer in ADHD coaching in Hungary and a certified quantum biofeedback practitioner. With a background in education, HR, and a deep commitment to continuous learning, she integrates Compassionate Inquiry, neurofeedback, and cutting-edge technologies like the QUEX ED® into her holistic coaching practice.
